One of the most important steps you can take toward achieving things you want in life is to learn to monitor your attitude. Positive attitude impacts on your work performance, relationships and everyone around you.
We all have a choice. We can either choose self-encouragement and self-motivation, or we can choose one of self-defeat and self-pity. It’s a power we all have. Each of us encounters hard times, hurt feelings, heartache, and physical and emotional pain. The key is to realize it’s not what happens to you that matters rather it is important that how you choose to respond.
Your mind is like a computer that can be programmed. You can choose whether the software installed is productive or unproductive. Your inner dialogue is the software that programs your attitude, which determines how you present yourself to the world around you. You have control over the programming. Whatever you put into it is reflected in what comes out.
Many of us have behavior patterns today that were programmed into our brains at a very tender age. The information that was recorded by our brains could have been completely inaccurate or cruel. The sad reality of life is that we will continue to hear negative information, but we don’t have to program it into our brains.
The loudest and most influential voice you hear is your own inner voice; self-critic. It can work for you or work against you, depending on the messages you allow. It can be optimistic or pessimistic. It can wear you down or cheer you on. You control the sender and the receiver, but only if you consciously take responsibility for and control over your inner conversation.
Habitual bad attitudes are often the product of past experiences and events. Common causes include low self-esteem, stress, fear, resentment, anger and an inability to handle change. It takes serious work to examine the roots of a harmful attitude, but the rewards of ridding ourselves of this heavy baggage can last a lifetime.
So how can you carry a positive attitude every day, at home or at work and anywhere else outside? How can we actually do it? Well guys, YES!! Each one of us can do it and turn the negative attitude into the positive attitude:
1. Each person has certain kind of interests which makes him/ her happy. Some may like dance, or painting or photography etc. By stepping back and concentrating on your best skill, your mind switches from feeling frustration to fresh feeling, alert and more willing to accept new information. Why is that? Because when you feel confident in your abilities, you’re able to think creatively and solve problems. Use that momentum to your advantage.
2. Do you ever feel like throwing your computer at the wall? Or feel like throwing everything on your desk away? In times of extreme frustration or feelings of failure, stop and pause. Realize that the frustration you feel isn’t a flaw—it’s your determination to succeed. Then turn your focus to something you truly enjoy.
Consciously be aware of the enjoyment you feel. Watch a favourite video clip, listen to an upbeat song or play a little tennis—just do what you need to do to put yourself in the right mood. Don’t over think it, just take action and do something that feels positive.
3. Once you are in your “happy” place, look at your problem with fresh eyes. You will realise that you are able to find solutions to your problem which you didn’t see before, or that you are better able to master a new skill now with your changed your mindset. Feel-good behaviours lead to more productive results. Look for a common thread of “wins” throughout the day. In times of frustration, push yourself to stop, do something that makes you feel good, then attack the problem with the new mindset.
4. Make a list of ways to reward yourself for a job well done or a positive attitude maintained. It could be a coffee run, a guilty-pleasure TV show, a favourite dessert or simply quiet time to yourself. Rewards are personal and should motivate, excite and stimulate a person. Whatever fits the bill for you, make sure to integrate it into your daily life.
5. Timing matters, too. Don’t postpone the reward only until after achieving the big goal. Break the goal down into milestones. What will it take for you to get to that goal? Reward yourself at each accomplished milestone.
6. Every day is a new day and deserves a fresh approach, a chance to focus on those “good” patterns. At the end of your day, set aside 15 minutes to reflect on your “daily wins” and how they made you feel. Over time, accentuating the positive becomes a habit, not just an overly sunny expression. You will be able to easily identify when you feel the strongest and most effective.
So instead of looking to crush the bad, seek to celebrate the good and accentuate the positive. This fresh outlook will brightly colour your days and bring lasting, realistic change. It makes our life much happier. It is no secret that life seems to reward us most when we approach the world with a positive attitude.
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